Anyways, at the beginning, it lists all the chapters. He's just not that into you if...he's not calling, seeing someone else, not having sex with you...so on and so forth. And I gotta give it to them, this book is certainly eye opening, but for me, it worked in sorta the opposite way. Which gets me thinking just as much.
I was comparing two guys that I have in my life. Corey - the guy who I work with that is REALLY into me, and Steve, the guy I was REALLY into, but moved far away.
Corey is the exact opposite of the guys they describe in this book. He always wants to hang out, he's really understanding, beyond what he should be at some times. He constantly tells me how much he cares about me. When we hang out, it actually is really good. No pressure, so relaxed and just comfortable. The only thing is..there are two sides to this guy. He's weird slash crazy sometimes. You have to get to know him before you can justify some of the stuff he does, and that's a huge flaw in him. He comes off weird to everyone, and you cannot blame anyone for thinking that he's a weird guy, but if you got to know Corey, it makes sense why he acts like he does. (See, I friggin sound like I'm rationalizing for him, but I'm really not...that's a fact)
Steve - shit. We still text, phone and write. He's not really good with texting, he'll say "I miss your ass" rather then just writing "I miss you" which sounds ten times nicer. I'm just going to get straight to the point with this one. I like him, I REALLY do, there is nothing wrong with him and he's my kinda guy all around - but I totally feel like I'm holding back for something to happen with Steve, and that something could never happen. It COULD happen if we lived closer, but he doesn't, we have no idea when he's moving back. I'll see him over Christmas which is great, but I almost feel like I'm grasping for something to hold on to..and it shouldn't be like that.
Here are my options:
1. Forget Steve, give Corey a shot. (Which means he has to win over my friends..)
2. Forget Steve, forget Corey.
3. Keep holding on for something with Steve. (Which means ending things with Corey completely)
4. Let Steve know exactly how I feel, see what he has to say, and then deal with Corey accordingly.
This is just my own reflection that just came to me: I think my life experiences combined with Sarahs has more meaning then this damn book.
Haha oh dear friend. You know how I feel about Corey. It would take SO much for him to win me over, even if I am nice to his face, I don't like him. He's put you through so much BS that you don't need. Even if it is good when you're together, it's not ALWAYS good when you're together, and you don't deserve how hot and cold he is when he's like that. I know you, and you need someone who is just, themselves, all the time. No ups and downs, no bipolarness, no adhd, just... sane.
ReplyDeleteSteve is gone though. And I also think it is semi-pointless to think that anything is going to happen with him. I mean, for now I would let it go. If it's meant to happen, it will happen. But don't stress over it. (Haha.. I'm so good at this when it's not my own life).
Does that help?
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